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Dear Readers,

Think back. When was the last time someone just complimented you and made you feel good about yourself? Was it when you were little and kept the crayons on the line? Maybe when you are 14 and had a good report card?

Unfortunately, when you become an adult, folks tend to stop just telling you how much they appreciate you. Especially your partner

Until now…

Rori Gwynne wrote a book that I think will help you turn around your relationship. It is “Have the Relationship You Want.“

Read my review here:

http://www.moderndatingsite.com/get-the-relationship-you-want.html

Sincerely,

John Garret

Source: Get the Relationship You Want

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There are countless ways to meet people, whether through friends, following a particular music scene in your hometown, joining clubs or looking through dating personals. But, in spite of all the different ways we coming in contact with new people, it still seems hard find that one person who’s right for you. The search for good relationships, or ideally that one good one, can be a long, painstaking process.

In our culture, most of us attach a lot of importance to our romantic relationships, so maybe it makes sense that the search is so long. Sometimes, though, I worry that our expectations are linked a little too much to what we see in romance movies. I don’t mean that we should lower our expectations and I don’t even mean that our ideals are unreasonable. It’s just that we can’t forget that those idealized conceptions of romance are esthetic imaginings. They compress all the important events and signs together in one production. It isn’t that reality is less grand or beautiful, but only that it is more spread out, more mixed up with other things.

Generally speaking, I think I’m a pretty observant and attentive guy, but it’s amazing what the human mind is capable of missing. Someone painted a huge, ugly piece of graffiti on the wall next to the entrance to my building. Almost a week afterward I was having dinner with some of my neighbors and one of them started complaining about the graffiti, to which I responded, “what graffiti?” Everyone laughed at me. I managed to miss something glaringly obvious even though I pass by more than once every day. This is a rather unfortunate choice of metaphor wherein I’ve compared romance to graffiti… but I hope it make my point clear. What I mean is that we get into routines and we only see what we consciously pay attention to, and a lot of other things get lost.

I think that sometimes we get caught up in the idea of a certain romance that we’re after, or a certain idea of romance, and we miss all the good relationships that we could be building with the people that are already in our lives. I don’t think there is a problem with the importance we place on romance in our live, or that we take the search for good relationships too seriously. I do, however, think that the search would be a little bit easier if we didn’t expect what we’re looking for to be so obvious. Subtle things are beautiful when you pay close attention.

Source: The Perpetual Search For Good Relationships

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Some of my readers may be wondering what I’m like. Well, take a look at this video.

It isn’t long but wait for the last duckling. That would be me. Confused and the last one standing…

Source: Finally, the Perfect Video that Shows Me…

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A friend of mine has a thing for beautiful Italian ladies. Actually, he’s got a thing for pretty much everything Italian. The food, the wine, the culture. He’s even learning Italian. However, he isn’t Italian so he is have trouble meeting girls with that heritage. I suggested he try an Italian Dating site to see who he can meet.

I know that, generally speaking, the women on Italian dating sites are looking to meet other Italians, but given my friend’s affinity for everything about the culture I’m hoping some of the beautiful Italian ladies will make an exception in his case.

I suppose it might seem strange that someone develop such an obsession with a culture that that they don’t initially come from. To be honest, it seem strange to me, but it seems pretty sincere and he explains it pretty well.

He told me that, for most of his life, he always felt a little bit like an outsider. He said that the first time he didn’t feel like that way was when he spent a summer living in Italy. He studied art history and went on what was supposed to be a two-week trip to Rome to do research, but he was gone for months and only came back once his visa expired and he had no choice.

Part of me thinks that traveling, wherever you go, always makes you feel like a changed person, but my friend insists that it’s something specific about Italian culture. He likes the way people interact and live and that it all made him feel very comfortable.

Anyway, whatever the cause of his fantasy, he’s putting a lot of work into it. He’s reading in Italian now and is starting to be able to speak it, so the language barriers should disappear pretty quickly once he meets an Italian angel who can help him practice. He’s a good guy, and I’m sure that he’ll be able to meet someone nice on of the dating sites he is going to try out.

Source: Beautiful Italian Ladies

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Online dating personals are a really good way to put you in contact with all kinds of fun, interesting and attractive people. There are a lot of things to look out for when meeting new people, but potential communication problems in relationships are really one of the most important things to avoid.

We tend to think that love should be enough; that if you care for someone enough and admire them enough, then any other problems can be overcome. That might be an inherently naïve misconception, but it is definitely true that without proper communication in relationships there is very little else that matters.

Communication in relationships has got to be one of the most important things to maintain. We all know that trust in relationships is of paramount importance, but even that begins with having a good understanding of each other. Two people can’t develop a good level of trust if they are constantly worried about misunderstandings and unclear expectations.

The fact is, communication problems in relationships lead directly to doubting whether or not the person you’re with has any idea who you are. It’s really important that, when you’re looking to start a relationship, you find someone with whom you communicate well. That can be harder than it sounds.

We’ve all heard the jokes about how men and women communicate differently and I suppose there is some truth hidden behind all the cliches. However, I think there can be more differences between any two people, man or woman, than there generally are between the genders.

Some people simply communicate differently. Some people focus on denotative meaning, that is to say that many people rely on the literal meaning of words and don’t think anything else should be read into them and, consequently, don’t read anything into them when other people use them. Some people rely heavily in implications and connotations, and when someone else isn’t used to thinking over everything they say, there can be problems.

Those are two overly extreme examples, but the important thing to realize is that is neither right or wrong. On the one hand, we can’t be expected to read minds and decipher a web of subjective connotations. On the other hand, it can sometimes be unreasonable to expect that everything be stated explicitly. There are some things that, when you’ve known a person for a while, should be able to go unsaid. Part of communication is learning and anticipating. When this doesn’t happen, one might well wonder if the other person is paying attention.

All this to say, if you pay a little attention to how people are accustomed to communicating, then a lot of misunderstanding and unwanted surprises can be avoided.

Source: Avoiding Communication Problems In Relationships

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