Are You Looking for Love in the Wrong Places?

These are the ten places of 100,000 or more population with the highest Men-Women ratio in 2000. Source is the U.S. Census Bureau in 2000.

So ladies, if you are single and are looking to improve your chances… these are the cities with way more guys than women!

Salinas, CA
Ft. Lauderdale, FL
Santa Ana, CA
Tempe, AZ
Wichita Falls, TX
Sunnyvale, CA
Austin, TX
Costa Mesa, CA
Oxnard, CA

Ten places of 100,000 or more population with the lowest Men to Women ratio in 2000. same source.

Now guys, these are the cities to go to improve your luck with the ladies. Just be nice.

Gary, IN
Birmingham, AL
Philadelphia, PA
Jackson, MS
Richmond, VA
Pembroke Pines, FL
Shreveport, LA
Baltimore, MD
Mobile, AL
New Orleans, LA

Are you starting to notice a trend? The male to female ratio is higher on the western part of the United States and higher in the eastern part of the United States.

Take a look at this image from the same source:

The legend is probably too small to read. Just use this key:

Red = Lots of Women
Blue = Lots of Men

We need more guys to move back East and more women to move West. Can we make this mass migration happen?

If you have ideas, tell me! But keep it clean PG rated thanks…

Source: Why Can’t I Find a Man or Woman?

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If I’ve learned anything in my life, it’s that the old adage ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’ is absolutely true. I’ve dated lots of different women, each more different than the next. I’m fond of the saying that there are women who aren’t pretty, they just look that way. There are many women who fit the stereotype of what a certain part of society wants us to believe is beautiful, but they are severely lacking in the inner beauty that’s so necessary to be really and truly beautiful. For me, BBW girls have all the curves in all the right places and the ones that I’ve found to date through websites like BBW Personals Plus have been among the best dating experiences I’ve ever had.

Karen was a girl that I dated for about six months. She had a larger than life personality and a lust for life that was unequaled by anyone I’d ever met before. I met her through one of the hot personals sites that I’d been checking out. We hit it off immediately in our email conversations and within a week we were going out on our first date. We had a great time and I was compelled to learn more about this vivacious woman whose enthusiasm was so very infectious. We laughed a lot when we were together. Our dates were pure heaven, a kind of shelter from the storm of my daily grind. I rarely saw Karen without a smile on her face. She believed in the power of positive thinking and exuded a rare sexiness that few women ever achieve.

The only problem in our relationship was that Karen was still getting over the loss of her husband. She’d told me right away that she’d been divorced, but I didn’t really know the extent to which that had affected her. She still held a great deal of self-esteem and very positive attributes, but she still harbored some fear that she would be hurt again. From what I heard about him, it seemed to me that he wasn’t exactly a prize catch, but it doesn’t matter who you are, losing a loser is still a loss. I had many wonderful evenings, and several fantastic weekends with this amazing BBW girl. Her unequaled beauty and infectious laughter gave me a lot of joy and I’m very glad for the experience of having known her. I haven’t seen her in a few years and I really hope that for her sake that she was able to move forward and enjoy every aspect of her life the way I enjoyed mine when I was with her.

Source: Beautiful Evenings With BBW Girls

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I don’t know if I have an unreasonably low tolerance for cheating in relationships or not, but I tend to think that if your partner is cheating then the relationship has reached the breaking point and it is high time to end things and start putting yourself out there on the dating personals without looking back.

I know people can make mistakes and that it is important to forgive. If I’m going to be honest, I’ll even have admit that the times I’ve caught girlfriends cheating in relationships I didn’t break things off right away. The times it has happened to me, I was with people that I, for my part, really loved. It’s pretty well impossible to just cut yourself off from someone who you care about deeply, so I tried to fix things and forgive.

None of those relationships I tried to salvage survived, although they fell apart for different reasons and, in some cases, I suppose it was my fault. I find it hard to trust someone that has burned me once, and once the trust is gone it’s all down hill from there. You can say you forgive someone, but it your are constantly suspicious of them and scrutinize everything they do for signs of betrayal then saying the words doesn’t add up to much. I think being suspicious of someone that hurt you is natural, but if, after a while, you can’t find a way to give them the benefit of the doubt again, then the relationship really can’t last.

On the other hand, while it is possible that I could have made more of an effort to move past the issue, in my experience cheating in relationships speaks pretty badly about the character of the cheater. Maybe I only say this because it’s happened to me, but you can’t accidentally sleep with someone else. It takes a bit of intent and, unless you’re a rock star, it usually takes a little persuasion too. I just don’t understand how someone can be so selfish as to hurt the people they care about by willfully betraying them. It demonstrates a lack of compassion that I find almost more disturbing than the fact of the betrayal.

I don’t regret trying to salvage damaged relationships. You can’t give up on the people you care about easily. On the other hand, I think I would have been better off if I’d just cut my losses and got back out into the dating scene.

Source: What To Do About Cheating In Relationships?

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Even when people are out looking for romance they tend to be a little suspicious of strangers. Come to think of it, maybe people are particularly suspicious when they’re looking to meet that special someone. It’s an understandable tendency. No one wants to meet a scary weirdo or get hurt. People’s fears are even more pronounced when it comes to dating personals. On top of their usual fears, no one wants to fall victim to flagrant false advertising. It would just add insult to injury. A lot of people use these sites and find it worth the risk, but did anyone ever stop and thing maybe there was something to be said for false advertising?

I suppose that sounds a bit shifty doesn’t it? I’m not trying to say that meeting someone you think you like only to be surprised by a giant age gap when you meet is going to lead to a happy new broadening of you dating horizons. Nor am I saying dating disasters are character builders that should be appreciated. Don’t worry. I am not an optimist.

I am, on the other hand, a bit of an idealist. Apart from being a synonym for “sucker” or “stubborn moron,” this also means that I try to remember the good ideas behind things. I think, for example, it’s important get involved with people for the right reasons and, maybe, just maybe, meeting them online means that you’ll pay more attention to the things that matter. You’ll actually think about who it is you’re corresponding with, what they are like and how they think, rather than all those things that might dazzle you into thinking they are better than they are or get in the way for no real reason.

Maybe an example would help. I came across a FOX news article the other day that talked about a whole range of celebrities from Halle Berry to one of the guys from Weezer that tried personals websites. The main reason being that it allows them to get to know people a bit before all the hype of their jobs takes over.

Source: False Advertising And Meeting Famous People Online

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I was talking with a friend the other day about the irony of the dating world. We were talking, specifically, about dry spells. They happen to the best of us, and I can live with that, but I wish I had some conception of what makes or breaks an image. There are times when you’re just too busy to meet people. You’ve got a lot of work to do, you keep your head down and stick to your routine. Dating Personals are good when this happens because it makes meeting people a little easier to fit into your schedule.

There are other periods though, when you have the time to spend out and about, to put yourself in places where you can randomly bump into strangers and you still find it hard to meet anyone. It’s those days when I find the whole dating scene really frustrating and mystifying.

Then, of course, there are days when everything is going well. What’s the line from Swingers? Some days you’re just money, and that’s all there is to it. I’ve never been one to think about the uses of astrology for dating but when you have those days it does feel like all the planets have aligned or something. Those are good days.

Now, irony comes into the picture when you’ve actually met someone for whom you find yourself seriously interested. This is what happened to my buddy. He’s been having a dry spell for a long while now and he’s been complaining about it a lot. Then, just last week, he meets this woman that he’s head-over-heals for. Seriously, I think the guys really fallen for this one.

So, what happens? He’s happy, he’s not even looking at other women and then all of a sudden he gets calls from every girl he’s been interested in for months. Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating a bit, but strange things are happening. The girl at the sandwich place where he has lunch every day, who he has never spoken more than three words to, randomly asked him out on a date. He’s a good guy and not of this is changing how he feels for the women he’s just met, but he walks around asking, “why now?” So this is my question about irony: why is it that when you’re off the market, so to speak, you suddenly capture the most interest? Whoever can figure that one out is going to be rich.

Source: Dating And Irony

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Source: Snuggling Up with the Woman of your Dreams on Valentine’s Day

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Source: Wake Up with Mr. Right on Valentine’s Day!

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We’ve all experienced it, so we know it to be true, but I’m going to go ahead and say it one more time. Love is hard. I know I’m not revealing any kind of big secret, but it’s important sometimes to sit back and think about how beautiful love can be if one puts the effort that’s required into making it work. My father used to say, “It’s better to love someone than to be in love with them. Better for both of you.” These days I think that I understand what he means. There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving them, as funny as that may sound. It’s not that sugary feeling that one gets, that feeling that’s like eating a box of chocolates, that makes love last. It’s effort. Whether you’ve just met someone through dating personals or have been with them for years, the only way to make a relationship last longer than the end of today is to put in some hard work.

Now, I’m not a relationship guru or anything remotely similar. I have had some experience with this, however. Recently, I’ve been wondering how people who have never lost love can fully appreciate what love is. For me, it’s been a lesson that’s been learned the hard way. That’s okay with me, because I’m a big believer in claiming one’s experiences as one’s own and celebrating how that makes us who we are. I’ve had to experience a lot of disappointment along with some beautiful love, but I have no regrets. I’m not the only one, of course. There are many out there who’ve realized how hard love can be, regardless of whether true love is or isn’t. How blind love can be when it should see all, regardless of the cliche. Those of us who have been through these experiences are those who can offer the most in a relationship, because we know now what it takes. Every time we fall down, we become that much stronger when we get back up again.

Nobody knows all about love, but it’s one heck of a lot of fun finding out. Even the frustration, disillusionment and regret we experience can, at the end of the day, be the catalyst that helps us to see more about how to love ourselves and those around us than we had ever thought possible. We know that simply saying, “I love you,” is not enough. We have to show someone we love them. It’s like anything else in life. I could say I’m a cowboy, but until I put on the hat and get up on a horse, it’s not going to be true. With hard work comes great reward and if you put hard work into making beautiful love, I guarantee you’re going to get it coming back to you with the same intensity, if not more.

Source: How Beautiful Love Can Be

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I love sailing and I think I’ve just about saved up enough cash to buy a boat. Not a big boat, but something I can run away in for days. Now I just need to find a sweet, fit woman to take with me. Actually, while fit would be a bonus, sweet is all I really care about. The funny thing is that it’s proving to be a lot harder to find girls that like to sail and I’m hoping a fitness dating site might be the place to solve this problem.

I know that, usually, when girls are searching on fitness dating site they are looking for fit men who like to go to the gym a lot, which is fair enough. I’m just hoping that, given that these gals are into a range of sports and physical activities, they might also be into taking off on a sailboat for a couple of days.

I really don’t understand why more people aren’t interested in sailing. I know a day on a boat isn’t everyone’s idea of a dream date. Most people think of romantic dinners rather than small, moving cabins, but I think sailing can be pretty romantic.

If you like being active, a good day of sailing has just about everything you could want. Navigation forces you to use your brain a bit and there is plenty of physical activity to make you feel invigorated and healthy and, besides, there is really nothing quite as beautiful using the silent power of the wind to cut through rolling waves. It’s about as meditative and peaceful as you can imagine. It also really encourages people to work together as a team and be comfortable in close-quarters.

There is also plenty of time for romance. All you have to do is find a nice, secluded bay and drop anchor in its calm water. Then you have your own, private piece of the world all to yourself. If you enjoy cooking, you can makes yourself a great meal, pour yourself some wine, and sit down and relax as the sun goes down leaving you on your boat, surrounded by stars. Can you really tell me that isn’t romantic? Add a nice, sweet, fit woman to share this with and you have what is, pretty much, my idea of heaven.

Source: Wanted: Sweet, Fit Women, Must Like Sailing

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Sometimes I think I lean too much towards the somber side of things, so I thought maybe a success story would be a nice change. As it happens, I have one. About a year and a half ago, a good friend of mine met a beautiful oriental girl through a Asian dating site. Everything went without a hitch. No disappointing fake profiles, a great first date and not only are they still doing well, but I just found out that they’re planning to getting married.

The funny thing is that I had no idea they’d started out through online dating. When we first met the new beautiful oriental girl in his life, we naturally asked them where they’d met. They both just smiled shyly and said they’d met through friends. I guess back then they were still a little embarrassed about having met online.

It didn’t come up again until they had their engagement party. Someone asked them to tell the story of how they’d first met and, this time, they both smiled again and then told us how they’d originally met online. Now they are just proud of what they have together.

It makes perfect sense, looking back. My friend is quite well-off, usually quite busy, and I remember that he used to have a lot of trouble meeting women. When he did meet someone, he found that they weren’t really that interested in him so much as they were attracted to the idea of dating someone wealthy. It bothered him a great deal.

Finally, he met this beautiful oriental girl that has since become the love of his life by trying out a wealthy dating site. He said that it really didn’t matter to him that whoever he ended up with had any money or not, but that he did want someone that was independent and driven, and not just looking for someone to take care of them.

It seems to have worked out really well. His lady love is one of the strongest people I’ve ever come across. She has a really interesting, fast-paced career in internet marketing that she loves. Their life-styles are really in synch and they are both really happy. Things don’t really get much better.

Source: Finding Love With A Beautiful Oriental Girl

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