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As you contemplate your plans to lose weight and get in shape for the New Year, before you add another diet to your resume and spend your valuable time, energy and money on the latest diet, Holly Rigsby, author of Fit Yummy Mummy advises you to think twice about your decision.

The only thing growing faster than the $65 billion diet industry is the American waistline. If your Resolution for the New Year is to GO on a Diet, the only place I guarantee you will go….is up in weight.

It’s a Fact - Diets will only make you fatter.

When it comes to the latest in Diet fads, we are quite gullible and easily tempted by a Diet’s empty promised. Reason being….the diet industry KNOWS we are in search of the “quick fix” and will only play with our emotions - our desperation for the quickest way to relieve looking and feeling fat.

Diets are nothing more than Temporary Solutions with many lingering, negative side effects.

Here are the Top 10 Reasons Why you should NOT “go” on a Diet

1. Diets do NOT work. Diets have a 99% Failure Rate. Have you noticed a pattern yet? Lose weight….quickly regain it? Over time, studies show if you diet you are more likely to be overweight than people who eat normally and make small gradual changes to their lifestyle. No, the Law of Averages does not apply to this faulty system.

2. Dieting can be Dangerous. Any time you severely restrict the amount or types of foods you eat you put your health and life at risk. Dieting has been related to injuries and sudden deaths from electrolyte imbalance, malnutrition, and heart arrhythmia’s. Weight cycling, or yo-yo-ing weight, is associated with higher death rates - especially if some type of pills are being used. At no point should you ever place weight loss above your health.

3. Dieting Destroys your Metabolism. Diets will cause your weight to quickly cycle up and down. Sure, you may lose weight quickly because you are simply not eating enough. In the initial stages, the first seven to nine pounds lost are water, presenting a real danger of dehydration and mineral deficiencies. Even more terrifying ins the break down of lean muscle due to inefficient
nutrients and calories. If you are losing more than 3-4 pounds a week, you can be sure this is what is happening - very little fat is lost this state.

Now, any muscle loss will cause your metabolism slow to a crawl. The cumulative effect takes place for you cannot survive very long on very low calories (1200 or less) and you will eventually eat more - on top of a slower metabolism. All those excess calories will be stored as fat - causing rapid weight gain.

4. Dieting is Exhausting. Diets are just reduced calorie Fads disguised by a clever gimmick. “Lose weight while you sleep” “Eat all you want and still lose weight” Not eating enough or cutting out certain food groups means your body may not be getting the energy it needs, or may lack certain nutrients. You will feel exhausted, light headed and experience some not-so-fun mood swings.

5. Dieting is Disruptive. Dieting negatively affects your normal eating patterns. Diets can lead to binge eating, overeating and chaotic eating. When you diet, it is common to override your
internal signals telling you to eat. You end up trying to use willpower or resist hunger signals and may even go as far as taking appetite suppressants. This results in being unable to know when
you really are hungry or wore….when you’re full.

6. Dieting can lead to eating disorders. Experts state that the high rates of eating disorders in the U.S. are due in part to people dieting, losing weight, rebounding, and becoming chronic dieters.

7. Dieting Causes Food Obsessions. If you spend a large amount of time and energy depriving yourself of food or certain types of food - you will spend more time thinking about food and become obsessed attempts to control your weight by what you choose to eat or not eat. How long do you want to live like this?

8. Dieting Diminishes Women. There is way too much attention focused on our appearance and an arbitrary number on the scale. In the midst of this focus - we end up avoiding what really matters to us - our dreams and ambitions. Even worse, it erodes our confidence and self-respect.

9. Dieting Intensifies Negativity. If you diet, you are more judgmental and critical of yourself and others. Once again, wasted time and energy.

10. Diets Put Your Life on Hold. Does this sound familiar….”I’ll be happy when I weigh ______” Guess what, the issues in your life are not related to your weight. Take responsibility and take back control of your life. Decide to be happy now and do what it takes to live a lifestyle that reflects your priorities.

So this New Year resolve to NOT go on a Diet - Set Yourself F.r.e.e. from this miserable, guaranteed to fail weight loss cycle. Do NOT let the diet industry make money by taking advantage of you. It is time to stand up for yourself and take control.

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“I wish that I would have found Holly Rigsby’s Fit Yummy Mummy Program years ago as it would have saved me over 10k a year on my Personal Trainer! Holly has a clear understanding of how to get strong yet lean and gives you step by step advise. I highly recommend the Fit Yummy Mummy Program to everyone as I have implemented her workouts into my routine and have seen great results.” ~ Posh Mama Founder of Posh Mama Online Magazine and Social Network

“I could not ever imagine trying another “diet” to lose weight. I now have a permanent solution, instead of a temporary one. Overall Fit Yummy Mummy will create a new “you”. Thank you Holly for your time and dedicated support to creating a new “me”. ~ Bridget McKinley

Holly Rigsby, CPT, MAT America’s #1 Fat Loss Expert for Busy Moms and the author of FitYummyMummy. She has helped hundreds of Moms lose the stubborn baby fat and get their pre-baby body back. Don’t miss her F.r.e.e. Report: Top 5 Busy Mom Metabolism Boosters.

Source: Is your New Year’s Resolution to Lose Weight?

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It’s no fun being alone for the holidays, so I hope that, at this festive time of year, everyone found people with whom to share some food and wine and good company. If you’re life is anything like mine, though, you probably spent some time checking the dating personals looking for a date to take to take around to some of the events you attended.

I don’t know if this happens to everyone, but I know that for myself and a lot of my single friends, the holiday season is the time of year when your family sticks their nose into your personal life way more than is desirable.

To be sure, everyone means well. I think a lot of the awkwardness is also just a result of having busy lives. We don’t even get to see our own families as often as we’d like. You’d think this would result in having all kinds of news to tell people, but sometimes it just means it’s hard to find things to talk about at first. Naturally, everyone jumps right to people’s romantic lives.

If you don’t have a significant other, everyone starts asking you why or about how many people you’re dating. Although, to be fair, I don’t think this time of year is that much easier on my friends who are in relationships. At family dinners they get badgered about how long it will be before they get married or start having kids. Maybe there is just no defense. Maybe part of having a family is that accepting that they take joy in smiling while they ask you questions that make you feel awkward. Who knows?

On this subject, though, I saw one topical personal ad this season. I saw someone who was looking, basically, to meet someone for the sole purpose of taking turns running interference for each others families. The idea was to act as stand-ins to discourage questions. The idea made me laugh.

I don’t know how great a movie it would be. I don’t really like being dishonest, but I suppose some people’s families are even harder to deal with than mine. Still, I suppose, even if it is only supposed to be a functional arrangement, meeting someone’s family is a good way to get to know someone pretty quickly and acting as backup and being a good friend is as sensible an avenue for love as any other.

Source: Holiday Personals

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Anyone who is actively dating will find that there is an incredibly wide variety of individuals to choose from. This is, obviously, not a big surprise, as there are as many individuals in our world as there are snowflakes on a blistery winter’s day. Nevertheless, it can still make one wonder about how people came to be the who they are. I’ve met and dated so many different types of women that it makes me wonder how stereotypes about women or any other group can get established. I dated a cute Christian girl for a while. I had met her through a Christian Dating site and we ended up seeing each other several times.

We had met online in November and exchanged emails for about three weeks before we decided we would actually meet each other. For my part, I would not describe myself as devout, but my upbringing has taught me to identify myself as a Christian. I still believe in God, I just don’t attend church regularly. Well, as it turned out, our dating happened to bring us into the Christmas season. Now, Christmas dating can be uncomfortable, to say the least. One can never be sure what’s expected of them by the person they’re dating. It’s very important to have this discussion when entering the Holiday Season to remove any doubts, alleviate any fears and ensure that no one’s feelings will be hurt if expectations are not met.

The conversation I had with my cute Christian girl was wonderfully surprising. She did not want to exchange gifts, as she felt that it might place too much pressure on each of us. I agreed and was happy she felt the same way that I did. The one thing she did want, however, was for us to attend a Christmas Eve service together. I accompanied her and was glad that I had, as it reaffirmed my faith and gave me a wonderfully contented feeling. Even though nothing came of our modern romance, it was still very refreshing to date a woman with strength of conviction and a strong set of values. Here was a cute Christian girl who would not compromise her beliefs for anyone. We didn’t work out, obviously, as she felt she needed to be with someone whose faith approximated hers more closely. Nevertheless, I was glad to have spent the time I had with her. I’m sure that someone as beautiful as that would have no trouble finding someone like-minded to spend her time with.

Source: A Cute Christian Girl, A Beautiful Heart

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I caught a song on the radio the other day called Techno Romance. The song wasn’t really my cup of tea, but title got the hamster in my brain spinning its wheel and turning all the gears. There are a lot of people out there that are simply not ready to date online, but I think that’s really just too bad. Online dating personals are a really good way to meet awesome people and have a lot of fun in the process.

The techno romance idea stuck in my head because I was thinking that there are probably a lot of people out there that still attach a stigma to online dating. They might think it’s a last resort, or that it means they can’t meet people in the “real” world. I think it might be time that people realize that a techno romance might be something that is desirable in its own right. Maybe an online romance is the best kind of romance.

Now, personally, I’m not the kind of guy that would prefer a virtual date to one that occurs in the real world, although activities like that certainly have their place. That said, I do think it is time to realize that we live in an increasingly technologically oriented world. Computers are a positive tool in so many aspects of our lives. They make our tasks at work much simpler, broaden markets, facilitate the practice of medicine and keep us in touch with friend in the far reaches of the world. It’s time we realized that computers can be a source of positive progress in our romantic lives as well.

There are all kinds of really obvious reasons why online dating can be a good thing, but idea of a techno romance gave me the image of something special and unique. Usually we meet people in fairly obvious ways, whether through friends or social activities. The great thing about a romance that begins online is that it’s private and secret. It exists only between two people that would otherwise be strangers. It’s a great way to have a nice, quiet, beautiful relationship that belongs only to the people involved. It can be a warm, secret space to hide yourself away from the rest of the hectic world. Think about that. Isn’t that just the definition of romance?

Source: It’s Time For A Techno Romance

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Across the street from me lives a senior man whose company I’ve come to enjoy as of late. His name is Charles and he lost his wife to cancer about five years ago. Never one to complain, Charles has spent the last few years alone, but our conversations of late have led me to believe that he’s ready to start sharing his life with someone again. I’ve been talking to him a little bit about senior dating sites and I believe he’s starting to warm up to the idea. Charles is a smart senior man and he knows that if he doesn’t want to be alone anymore he’s going to have to get out of his comfort zone a little bit. I’m sure he’ll have absolutely no difficulty with women. He’s a good looking older man and he’s lived a fascinating life. He’ll have much to share with whoever it is that he finds.

I wondered how difficult it must be for a senior man, or a senior woman to meet someone later in life. Letting go of someone is never easy and it must be so very hard to let go of the person you shared so much life with and then allow someone else into your life. Charles talks a lot about his wife, how she was when she was alive. She must’ve been an incredible woman as his eyes light up every time he mentions her. They traveled all over the world together, watched history unfold together and shared a lot of life. I can see that he misses her, but I can also see his excitement, as reserved as it may be, when we discuss the idea of him going out on a date.

At this point in his life, Charles has no lack of romantic date ideas. He’s got so much experience with romance that it’s all I can do to refrain from bringing a pen and paper with me when I go to visit him. I should be writing this stuff down, I really should. While I know that, being a senior man, looking for a partner can seem a somewhat daunting proposition, I know that my friend has even more advantages than I do in this venture. He’s an interesting senior man with amazing life experiences. He knows who he is, he likes who he is and he knows where he would like to be and what he would like to be doing for the rest of his life. I don’t have too many other friends who are as confident of their place in this world than my friend Charles. I’m quite sure he’s going to have a lot of fun finding someone to share the rest of his wonderful life.

Source: A Senior Man Seeking Love

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Wealth is key for marriage, study claims

Someone please tell me… where are these guys getting their material?

Believe me, you cannot make up something like this!

This article pretty much calls every woman a gold digging whore.

Let me explain…

The conclusion of this article is that women are drawn to men of wealth, status and power. I guess that means all the other guys are sh*t out of luck.

It is ridiculous but still, the newspapers have to print out clap trap like this to sell newsprint.

Whatever!

Have a merry Xmas and happy New Year!!!

Dating Tip to Find a Lover — Don’t be alone anymore…

Source: All Women are Gold Digging Whores…

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When you realize you’re in a gothic romance, it’s time to make a break for it. I don’t mean meant that if you are a Goth or are dating a Goth, then you’re in a bad relationship. I’m really not talking about that particular sub-culture at all. I mean, if you’re in a relationship that, when you tell your friends about it, sounds like you’re reporting the plot of a gothic romance novel, it’s time to cut your losses and get back on the dating personals.

You might just think I’m being overly protective of my friend or that I’m exaggerating wildly, but I swear that, sometimes, things really do get that weird. I’m not usually one to stick my nose in my friends business when it’s not asked for, but this time my buddy really has to think about letting the girl go.

I might be using the term gothic fiction a little too loosely. I mean, I’m sure there are no actual vampires or werewolves involved. Something is really weird though. My friend seems to be under some kind of mind control. He’s taking crap in ways I never thought would happen with this guy. He’s smart, thoughtful, kind and confident. So not only does he do very little that anyone can complain about, but he doesn’t take random criticism to heart, nor does he usually let people treat him badly for no reason.

These days, though, he seems exhausted, miserable and full of self doubt, all of which seems to be related to his current girlfriend. They knew each other for a while before they started dating and she always seemed really nice, but now it’s really disturbing to watch the two of them together.

My friend denies it, I think because he really cares for her, but she always seems to be hiding something. Every once in a while I’ve been catching a lie in the things she tells me, but it’s more than just that. She seems paranoid about the most absurd things. I really can’t get into too many examples, but I seriously wonder if she’s losing it. Worse still, my friend seems to be slowly getting sucked into the craziness with her.

It really feels like a gothic romance novel in the sense that something just feels really off, but I can’t put my figure on exactly what it is. Still, I’m pretty sure it’s time for my friend to start dating other people.

Source: When You Realize You’re In A Gothic Romance…

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More and more people are choosing to look for love on wealthy dating sites, but how many of the people on those sites are, in fact, wealthy? If you’re trying to demonstrate your financial success, then it’ll take a little more than some numbers and your word to make you look credible. A wealthy male that is trying prove himself would do well to come up with some classy demonstrations of his status.

I don’t have a lot of money, but I like to think that if I were rich enough to back up my imagination, then I’d have a lot of material for dazzling displays of affection. How could you fail with a line like, “I’m really enjoying this conversation… would you like to continue it in Italy?” Another good one would be, “so you enjoy sailing? Would you like to spend your holiday on a 70-foot schooner?” I mean, come on, who would say “no” to questions like that? Fist they’d laugh because they though you were joking, and then they’d say, “I’d love to.”

There would be a lot of benefits to that kind of financial liberty. Creating a great first impression online is all very well and good, but it’s even better if you can strike up a conversation with someone living on the other side of the country and still be able to ask them out for a causal lunch. Come to think of it, the whole first impression thing would get a lot easier very quickly. You’d have to convince people that you’re not joking with them and that you aren’t crazy, but apart from that it would be pretty easy to get a second chance with someone if you can offer them all kinds of exciting experiences in your company.

Now, of course, I’m being a bit fanciful. I don’t mean to joke, because there are a lot of good reasons to get into wealthy dating that don’t really involve material concerns. I’m just enjoying the though of being able to cast myself as a wealthy male who can do dazzling things. I got the idea in my head when I read on the BBC News website that they are auctioning off a section of stairs from the Eiffel Tower. The expect the bidding to start around $44,000, and the piece weighs over 700kg, so I imagine shipping and handling would be on the costly side. I don’t know if it would be the best of all perfect first date gifts, it might be a bit over-the-top, but just imagine the look on woman’s face when you invite her over to you apartment and walk her up the stairs of the Eiffel Tower. Now that, my friends, would be classy.

Source: How To Demonstrate That You Are A Wealthy Male

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I have a friend who is a great guy, but for some reason he has not been able to find a compatible mate. He’s a wonderful man, generous to a fault, owns his own business and is someone I’m proud to call a friend. I guess he’s not exactly the best-looking guy, but there’s no way I’d call him ugly either. A while ago, he got fed up with being lonely and tried a mail order brides website. That’s how he met his Chinese angel.

Of course, I knew that there were Chinese mail order brides, but I’d never known anyone who’d actually used one of these sites to find one. My friend was determined to find someone to spend his life with and so he started out by looking at some of the postings on the site. He contacted a few women before he met the gal who would eventually become his wife.

Somehow, he knew right away that she was the girl for him. She’s a real Asian beauty, with beautiful eyes and a winning smile. They communicated with each other through email for several months, making sure to get to know each other as well as possible under the circumstances. A few times they spoke on the phone and eventually my friend decided to hop on a plane and go visit her.

It was love at first sight all over again as he stepped off the plane and saw her waiting for him in the terminal. They spent a lovely month together. He toured around China with his Chinese angel and spent some time with her family. Except for the three month period that he waited for her after he came back, they’ve not been apart since.

Today, my friend continues to be successful and he’s got himself a lovely little family as well. They must have been trying right away, because it wasn’t long at all after they got married that their first child was born. Half a year later, she’s pregnant again and my friend couldn’t be happier. I’m definitely envious of his good luck and his Chinese angel.

Source: A Lovely Chinese Angel

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I live in a big city, I got out a lot, I even check out dating personals sites, but my life could still use a little touch of romance. It’s not that I don’t meet a lot of cool girls, it’s just that there always seems to be something missing. I guess these things happen to everyone, but I’m still worried I’m being too picky or that I’m just really bad at connecting with people.

I think maybe it has something to do with getting turned down a little while ago by someone I met that I really liked. It shouldn’t be a big deal and I don’t usually take this kind of thing badly, but for some strange reason, for the past while, I just haven’t felt myself.

Maybe the problem was that the reasons didn’t really make sense. This gal just finished university and moved back home because she found work there and I think that’s the only reason she didn’t want to pursue anything. It’s not like I’m dying for a long distance love affair, but I think it would be worth all the difficulties. Especially since she’s still looking for work in the city and will probably find something before long.

I suppose my timing could’ve been better, but what was I supposed to do? I mean, obviously, I shouldn’t have waited so long to speak up. The thing is that we’d known each other for a while, but I don’t think either of us realized how close we’d become until the prospect of being apart made it so evident.

Anyway, what’s done is done and it probably wasn’t meant to be. I just need to shake this feeling like I’ve missed out on something and then maybe I’ll feel that touch of romance with the next woman I meet.

I think that as soon as I can stop thinking about this relationship that didn’t quite get started, everything will be back to normal. I think a lot of us imagine that the things we can’t have would be some kind of perfect ideal. It’s good to have dreams, but not at the expense of robbing everything else of the slightest touch of romance.

Source: Missing That Touch Of Romance?

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